Part 1 of 2: French Kissing
Prepare your lips. Keep your lips relaxed and open slightly to let your partner know that you are ready for a kiss. Avoid puckering or pursing them, as this will send the wrong message and make French kissing physically difficult.
- Keep your breath fresh by brushing your teeth or popping a breath mint beforehand.
- Tackle dryness with chapstick or by licking your lips slightly. Ladies, try using lip gloss or flavored chapstick to make your lips irresistibly soft and shiny.
Set the mood. Let your partner know that you want to kiss him or her by maintaining eye contact and smiling. If you are in the middle of a conversation, then slow it down and lower your voice slightly to signal that you’re ready to stop talking and start smooching.
- Some people get so nervous before the first kiss with a new partner that they end up talking too much in order to fill the silence. Avoid doing this as it could ruin the moment and make your partner lose interest.
Lean in for a kiss. Watch your partner as you lean in to determine whether to tilt your head to the left or to the right (move your head in the opposite direction of your partner’ss). You should also tilt your head back slightly and point your lips and chin forward to avoid banging your foreheads together.
Start off slow. Keep your lips ever so slightly open, but avoid using your tongue at first. Start off with a few slow, gentle kisses, lingering on your partner’s lips each time.
- Keep things interesting by repositioning your lips in between each kiss. Tilt your head slightly more to the left or slightly more to the right, or switch sides entirely so that your head is now tilted in the opposite direction as before.
Open your mouth a little more. Once you have been kissing without tongue for a bit, it’s time to take it to the next level. Lock lips with your partner so that his or her bottom lip is in between your two lips, and then open your mouth slightly to signify that you’re ready to French kiss.
Use your tongue. Start off gently at first, moving your tongue into the front of your partner’s mouth. Avoid immediately jamming your tongue too far into his or her mouth, as this can be a major turn-off. Move your tongue in slow, fluid movements around the other person’s tongue and allow them to reciprocate before going any further.
- Start off by gently touching the tip of your tongue to the tip of your partner’s tongue. If both of you feel comfortable with it, you can move your tongue deeper into your partner’s mouth and begin massaging their tongue with yours.
- Pay attention to your partner’s movements. Being a good kisser is about being in sync with the other person and finding a rhythm that works for both of you.
Use your hands. Place your hands gently on your partner’s waist, shoulders, face, or neck. If things get heated up, grab your partner harder and move your hands from one body part to the other.
- Increase the intensity of the moment by placing your hands on the back of your partner’s head and grabbing his or her hair.
Don’t forget to breathe. Since your mouth is occupied, you will need to breathe through your nose while kissing. If you are not getting enough air that way, then pull your face away from your partner’s every once in awhile to catch your breath.
Be passionate. The more excited you are about the kiss, the more excited your partner will be. You should be completely present in the moment and try to avoid letting your mind wander to other things. Allow yourself to relax, and don’t spend the entire time wondering what the other person is thinking — go with the flow and have fun!
Part 2 of 2: Non-Romantic Kissing
Decide when and where to kiss this person. Non-romantic kisses are appropriate for friends and family members who you care for deeply. These types of kisses are appropriate for the cheek, hand and forehead in some instances.
- In many cultures, it is appropriate to kiss a friend or family member once or twice on the cheek when greeting each other or parting ways. Forehead kisses are usually more romantic in nature, and are appropriate for lovers, close friends, and/or exes.
Pucker your lips. For a friendly kiss, you should always keep your lips pursed together and completely dry. Wet kisses can be extremely unpleasant, so be sure to wipe your mouth beforehand is necessary!
- Ladies, if you are wearing lipstick or lipgloss, it might be a good idea to wipe it off with a napkin beforehand (unless, of course, you are purposely trying to leave a kiss-mark on this person’s cheek!)
Go in for the kiss. Be sure to keep the kiss(es) short and sweet to avoid sending the wrong message or making the other person feel uncomfortable. Avoid lingering too long, unless you are hoping that the non-romantic kiss will turn into something more than that.